Recently I attended a speaker’s bootcamp hosted by James Malinchak. One thing James is known for is over-delivering on what he promises. James frequently mixes with celebrities and sports figures, but I was thrilled to get the opportunity to meet (and be photographed with) Stedman Graham. Very cool.
The New Book is here
Feeling very proud that the book is done and is available electronically on Kindle
and in paperback from Amazon
Head is Spinning
I’m back from a couple very intense days in the San Francisco Bay Area. I drove up from Ventura County on Friday. (Funny, the trip didn’t take anywhere near as long as it seemed to all those years ago when I used to make the same trip in my bone-rattling 1969 VW Bug.)
The purpose of the trip was to spend two days learning what I needed to learn to get certified as a Medical Hypnotherapist. The class was taught by my new friend Seth-Deborah Roth (visit her site hypnotherapyforhealth.com). After the usual meet-and-greet with the other students, we got down into the guts (ha-ha) of medical hypnosis. I’m amazed at the huge amount of material we covered.
I suppose that the biggest “take away” for me is the degree to which bad stress underlies many/most/all the somatizing that our bodies do. This is to say that the mind-body is really a chemical soup, and our very thoughts introduce additional chemicals into the mix. Good thoughts produce endorphins, which make us feel good. Bad thoughts and stress elevate cortisol and adrenaline.
The abundance of cortisol and adrenaline result in “allostatic overload.” This fancy name for “bad stress” has some directly attributable effects: elevation of blood fats; atherosclerosis and hypertension, increased insulin resistance, which in turn leads to heart disease, stroke and kidney failure; suppression of the immune system; bone damage; muscle weakness; depression; memory loss (and actual brain damage); and other gastrointestinal disease processes.
Now when we compound the accumulation of bad stress with other counter-productive behaviors (like smoking and over-eating), it’s amazing to me that most of us make it to adulthood. It’s a tribute to the robustness of the body that it is as hearty as it is, given all the horrible things we do to it.
More musings later on this and my other blogs:
Off We Go!
Ain’t life grand???? If you believe what people tell you as you’re growing up, you’ll think that if you follow the rules, cross your t’s, dot your i’s, and go to church on Sunday, you’ll live a long and happy life with no problems. And, hey, you might even get a gold watch at the end.
Then at some point, you eventually discover that even though you do live by the rules, you’re unemployed, or suddenly divorced, or in debt up to your ears, or all of the above. I should know. It happened to me.
At first it felt like a slap in the face with cold fish, and I went on a pity party of monumental proportions. I kept thinking things like, “I’m a good person. Why did this happen to me?” “How can this be? I’ve never hurt anyone.” “Why did they lay me off? There are people in the company who are complete #*&^-ups!”
My pity part was very intense, but mercifully brief. I decided to man-up and look at my thinking. I decided either I could wallow around and have people feel sorry for me or I could take all that energy, re-define my view of the world and turn this whole situation to my advantage.
I chose the latter. I used the opportunity to embark on a path of continuing (and continuous) education, deep introspection, and quest for meaning in my life. In short, I committed to live my life the way I want.
I became a certified hypnotherapist and now I help people who are stuck in their thinking.
I’ll be blogging from time to time on topics such as:
- Family Life
- Health and Fitness
- Personal Growth
- Spiritual Growth
And I’ll be writing a fair bit on hypnosis.
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Live well (it’s the only chance you get)!
Comedians around the world know that to make a really good joke it has to rely on so-called universals. Some old favorites come to mind: food on airplanes, mothers-in-law, (lack of) domestic bliss. Another “war horse” of the comedian is the dentist. There are lots of reasons for that. Toothache, jaw pain, the high-pitch whine of the drill, the resonance of the drill through the jawbone. These bring with them a certain amount of anxiety and fear.
The fear of the physical side of dentistry is compounded by “thought viruses” (a term coined by Robert Dilts that means a belief that is based on someone else’s – not your own – experience). For example, if I’m a young child and my older brother had a bad experience before I ever went to the dentist in my life, it’s a pretty safe bet that his experience will figure prominently in my mind as preparations are made for my first trip. The familial, tribal and cultural mythologies around dentists and dentistry are largely thought viruses. They press heavily on our little minds long before we’ve had an actual experience, and they shape our mental expectancy.
In fact, because mental expectancy is a major component of hypnosis, it can easily be argued that the cultural mystique around dentists (as being sadists – as in the movie Little Shop of Horrors) is largely bad hypnosis. There’s a basic axiom in hypnosis that what the mind expects to happen tends to be realized. If we’re told from early on that we are going to suffer at the hands of a DDS, we’re going to find it challenging to let the experience be received in its objective fullness.
One of the things that first intrigued me about hypnosis was its applicability to manage pain. Back in the early- to mid-19th Century, doctors were doing amazing surgeries using only hypnosis for pain management. Dr. James Esdaile published a book in 1846 detailing hundreds of operations he’d performed in India (including amputations, tumor removal, abscess drainage, and other abdominal surgeries) all with hypnosis alone. These surgeries pre-date chemical anesthesia.
With the advent of chemical anesthesia, interest in research in hypnosis as an anesthetic dropped off considerably and it’s only been in recent times that it has come to life. Today there are a number of avenues for the application of hypnosis in the dental arena.
Pain control is an obvious area. Hypnosis can allow the dental patient incredible degrees of control. Hypnosis can numb the jaw, the side of the face or just a single tooth. There’s no need for xylocain or novocain. The patient can be instructed to go deeper and deeper into hypnosis as the procedure progresses. With this kind of suggestion, the longer the procedure, the more relaxed the patient. Truly, a win-win!
Hypnosis can also be used to quell and root out that thought virus mentioned above. By providing specific instructions, a good hypnotist can undo the effects of the “bad hypnosis” that even well-meaning mothers and siblings instill in children. And we can innoculate them from on-going “bad hypnosis” after the fact.
Imagine how good it will feel to step out of the dentist’s chair even more relaxed than when you sat down — and without the after-effects of chemical anesthesia. No more “droopy lip”. No more “cheek chewing”. No more swollen tongue.
I can foresee a time in the future when comedians will have to drop dentists as easy targets.
I stated on my FAQ page that hypnosis is an ordinary, commonplace occurrence for people. We go in and out of hypnosis all day long. There’s no “formal induction” to take us there. We just “go there” on our own. Countless examples abound in everyday life. For example, “Highway hypnosis.” You’re driving down a long stretch of open highway and suddenly you become aware that you’re miles further along than you thought — usually as you come up to your desired offramp (and sometimes as you pass it). “Did I pass my exit?” “Where do I get off?” These are questions that often rattle around inside the head of a driver who is just emerging from a highway trance.
Another example happens in an elevator. People get in, turn and face the numbers. They track the numbers as they move from one floor to another. Suddenly the door opens and there’s a second’s hesitation as the trance ends. People fidget trying to figure out if this is their floor. They should know, after all, they’ve been watching the numbers!
It’s a given that hypnotists use this technique routinely. A hypnotist in the clinical arena leverages this form of hypnosis for therapeutic effect. He or she will begin talking to a client using a particular tone of voice and gently begin to weave suggestions for change in with the more obvious commands for relaxation.
Other less obvious forms of waking hypnosis abound. Remember that hypnosis is nothing more than the bypass of the critical factor (your conscious mind’s judging ability) and the establishment of suggestibility. A doctor creates hypnosis in a patient by virtue of his medical authority. That white coat uniform of the doctor is the agent of critical factor bypass and his/her words are the hypnotic suggestions. Thus, all a doctor has to do is declare the wellness or illness of the patient and the patient will respond according to the words. That’s why it is essential for doctors to be precise in their pre-surgical language. A surgeon who says, “You’ll probably be all right” has significantly lowered the prospect of a successful recovery compared to one who say, “You’re going to be fine.”
Dentists bask in same sun as doctors. Their very authority bypasses the critical factor of their patients such that they need to be phenomenally careful with their language. Just the mention of word p-a-i-n will suggestively increase the pain response in the patient.
Parental authority likewise gives adults hypnotic power over their kids. Again, bear in mind that this doesn’t mean automatic compliance on the part of the children. It just means heightened suggestibility.
Waking hypnosis is the tool of choice for politicians and con men, advertisers and teachers, church and military. Where there is authority, expertise, consensus, hypnosis is right around the corner. If you’re not using waking hypnosis, someone is using waking hypnosis on you.
We’re off to be the Wizard…
Okay. It’s Sunday January 18th. I’m over the shock of having been laid off from my day job, effective last Friday. So far over it, in fact, that I’m viewing it as a life-changing opportunity. I had been thinking, in a moderately “someday” kind of fashion that “one day” I’d quit the day job and establish a robust, enjoyable and profitable Hypnotherapy-cum-Coaching business.
Well, that “someday” is now. Lord knows, I have the training for it. I took my first hypnosis course a couple of years ago. In 2007 I took NLP Practitioner training, Time Line Therapy™ training, and Hypnotherapy training. Last year I took Master NLP Training, Master Time Line Therapy™ training and Master Hypnotherapy training. I have so many certificates I don’t know what color my office wall is. Additionally, I got a county business license, established my LLC and still sat around waiting for “someday.”
Well, the Fates are funny, I think. When I look at it objectively, there is nothing happening here that wasn’t already in my timeline. Being laid off from my day job is really an acceleration of my future, neither an abrupt change nor a derailment. Profitability is the next step, and after that abundance.
If you’re over weight, you’ve cultivated your eating behaviors over a long period of time. Hypnosis helps you let go of old ways of behavior. Hypnosis then installs new behaviors effortlessly and easily. You’ll be amazed at how easy it will be for you to choose the right foods, to choose proper sized portions, and enjoy every bite.
Hypnosis has the highest success rate of any modality for the cessation of smoking. A good hypnosis session for quitting smoking works on the conscious and on the unconscious mind. With our sessions you will in control of yourself and your habits. You will be in control of your response to any person, thought, or event, and that response will be smoke-free!